So I was thinking on the way to work this will be our 6th Valentines Day together. Nobody says wow you and your husband have been together a long time. My sister was married for 3 years and my parents were like estatic (well she does have two cute kids as a result of the marriage the only good thing to come out of it). Her marriage was a rocky one. The relationship was bad and actually lasted on and off for over 15 years. Her ex was my best friend as a kid. He was abusive and became a drug addict. Today he lives in his car. My dad has said he thinks marriage should between men and women and for having kids. Well he and my mom have been un-happily married for 43 years now.
This weekend we are going to Vegas. I didn't plan it as a Valentine trip. When I heard Bette was going to be in Vegas I knew I wanted to see her. I bought the tickets (for a lot of money), then got over my buyers remorse and booked the flight. After that I realized the whole flying on Friday the thirteenth and it being Valentines Day, and Presidents Day weekend. Well I then got on line and found a Hotel (ouch) expensive but Nice.
So now I'm thinking all those couples are going to be there and getting married and I can't. Don't get me wrong, we had a ceromony, and I was surprised that my sister was upset that she wasn't invited. My mom said oh how sweet and that was it. But truth is I want to Celebrate our relationship. After all isn't that what marriage is about? Gathering with family and friends and proclaiming your love for each other?
So how would allowing me to validate my relationship be allowing me special rights? I don't want special rights, I want validation and acceptance.
We need gay marriage.
And if any of you are in Sacramento (and not going to IBR). This weekend there is a gathering at the Capital to support Domestic Partnership rights.